How to Put a Child up for Adoption
Know your rights. As the birth parent of a child, you have a set of legal and moral rights. The courts have repeatedly held that it is a fundamental liberty to raise your child as you wish. You have the right to a relationship with your child and to direct her educational, moral, and religious upbringing. 
- You have a reciprocal responsibility to provide the financial and material support your child needs to be housed, clothed, and fed. As the parent, you also have a moral responsibility to provide a safe and nurturing environment for your child. 
Consider your options. Knowing your rights and responsibilities, an unplanned pregnancy or inability to care for a child is a stressful and emotional time.  Before you make a decision, you should examine and consider your options. Adoption should be approached as a permanent decision and that you are doing what is best for you and your child.
- Guardianship can be a temporary solution while you establish the emotional and financial resources you need to be a parent. The court awards temporary custody to a family member or other agreed party. You retain your parental rights and contribute to the child’s financial support while the guardian handles the day-to-day job of child-raising. The guardianship can be dissolved by the court when you can prove yourself fit and ready to be a parent. 
- Kinship adoption can be a permanent solution that keeps your child in the family and lets you maintain a relationship with her. Instead of a stranger, your child is adopted by the grandparents or other close relative. This type of voluntary in-family adoption can be handled by a private attorney in a very short time. Procedures, including home studies, are often less stringent or waived. 
- Open adoptions allow the birth parents to interact with the child and adoptive family. In an open adoption, even though you surrender your legal rights, you can play a bigger part in choosing the adoptive family and express your wishes on how the child will be raised. An open adoption also lets your family have limited participation through letters, gifts, and even visits. The adoptive family must consent to an open adoption. 
- Traditional or closed adoption. In the traditional adoption, the birth parents have little to no input or contact with the adoptive family and the records are sealed. This type of adoption offers the most privacy and can give the birth parents a sense of closure and the ability to move on after making the difficult decision. 
Make your decision. Unless the court is involved, the choice to give your baby or older child up for adoption is ultimately yours. You need to think clearly and not allow others to pressure you into a decision.
- Consider speaking to a counselor to talk about your emotions surrounding the decision. Depending on your circumstances, you may want to continue with therapy after you make your choice.
- Speak with other birth mothers to understand what a birth mother may experience post-placement. This will help you relax and find peace with your decision.
- If you have any questions or doubts about your parental rights and responsibilities, you should have a discussion with a family law attorney.
- In a court case where your child may be in foster care, you have the right to legal counsel. You can discuss the possibility of adoption with your lawyer.
- The process will go smoother and faster if the other parent consents. If it is practical and safe, you should discuss your decision with the other birth parent.
Do not Abandon Your Baby. In the U.S. there are Safe Haven Laws that allow you to legally and safely bring your child to an emergency room, police office, or other emergency center without legal repercussion. Your child will find a good home.
Birth mothers should be more vocal during the adoption process. They should voice their opinion and speak up if something is bothering them.
Spend time looking through various adoptive family profile to find whom you feel most comfortable placing your baby.